According to a survey conducted by Match.com, it takes almost no time at all for the average couple to kiss (usually on the first date), 1-2 weeks to sleep together but not stay the night, and nearly 3.5 months to call it official. But when it comes to those three little words, 'I love you,' couples usually take about 144 days, or between 4-5 months.
Now, all of these are considered milestones because so few of us actually get there. A huge part of dating is rejection. Let's take a look at Tinder as an example.
In 2014, the New York Times published facts on the dating app: while there were about 1 billion profile swipes per day, there were only about 12 million matches made. If you do a simple calculation, that's hundreds of millions of rejections, but we're sure it's more complicated than that.
But when you finally do land a date or meet someone special, you might still experience rejection even if they were initially attracted to you. In fact, this can happen at any point in the relationship. Just know that you're not alone (unless you're the perpetually the heartbreaker, never on the other side).
Below you'll find 14 of the most heartbreaking responses to 'I love you' from users on reddit.
"Oh please, don't tell me you're in love with me!"
That was someone’s response to Baaz saying, “Listen, I want to tell you something…” It’s tough when you fall for mind readers.
When your father just wasn't raised that way…
“My Papaw says that EVERYTIME, no matter what the situation is. A couple Summers ago he went in for quadruple bypass surgery and as they were carting him away to surgery my Mom ran after him and said,’ love you Dad.’ He looked her straight in the eyes and said, ‘Ok.’ My Mom was PISSED. They got in a back and forth where she would tell him to just say it and he’d tell her she knew he loved her and he’s always been like that. Eventually the boy carting him away told him to just say it and after a while he finally said, ‘I love you too.”
“He’s an old country boy who’s family was never loveydovey, so we understand why he doesn’t say it but my Mom is very affectionate so it really bothers her. I swear his last words will be, ‘Well… Alright.'”
"Just sign the papers, honey."
Siraisy wrote about the harsh realities when it comes to divorce. Too little, too late, but there’s always the future to look forward to.
"✓ Seen 8:36pm"
You send your feelings via text message and see this in return. User f3nd3r definitely feels for you.
Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone
"Yeahhh, how about let's not say that until we know we really mean it?"
Some of us fall for people like skizzl3, who don’t reject you but just want to wait for the right time to say it:
“My wife and I started dating when I was 16 and she 14. She said I love you like 2 weeks after we started dating and I was like ‘yeahhh how about let’s not say that until we know we really mean it.”
“I knew neither of us really knew what it meant and didn’t know if we loved each other, but apparently I knew something was special about her that I didn’t want to say it just because.”
“Edit: I’m 27 and she’s 25 now.”
"If you keep talking, it'll only hurt more."
Business-Socks got cut off while they were pouring their heart out.
"I'm marrying James, Severus."
Users like aafleming identified with one of the greatest wizards to cope with their pain.
Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows
"I'm hungry, let's get something to eat."
Skaschmidt’s experience was as real as it gets:
“I’m hungry, let’s get something to eat.”
“I know, I heard you the first time.”
"I am still leaving you."
GenAric witnessed his wife’s friend ‘crush a man with those five words.’ Ouch.
One user (push_harder) lightened up the room a bit with their story.
“Until the guy that I’m currently dating, I’d never told a guy that I loved him first. 5 months into our relationship, we’d just gotten back from this trip together and I told him that I loved him but he didn’t say it back. He explained that he didn’t quite feel that yet and that he didn’t want to say it without meaning it.”
“Never having been in that situation before, I took a minute to think about it and told him that I didn’t regret saying it – that although I wouldn’t say it again – I couldn’t regret saying to someone that basically their existence, actions, and who they are had increased the amount of love there is on this planet.”
“2.5 months later (two days ago, actually), he told me he loved me.”
“Worth the wait.”
Poster Kikilggy built up the courage to say ‘I love you’ to her man, but when he didn’t return the love, she tried to laugh it off:
“My ex said ‘thank you’ and that was it. Shame ensued. There were a few moments of silence which I broke by saying ‘juuuuuust kiddinggggggg’ in a shaky, trying-not-to-cry voice and then we broke up a few days later. That was 3 years ago. I will never let myself be the first one to say it to a guy ever again.”
"I slept with my ex last weekend."
Foxcapture is a soldier for getting past this experience:
“Silence, followed by her rolling over in the bed and saying ‘What do you want me to say to that?’ A couple more seconds of silence and then ‘I slept with my ex last weekend.'”
"I used to love you too."
Shitty_McFuckface’s ex-wife said this as she was leaving him. Cue in the flood of memories.
Skittering_Teeth reminds us that some of the deepest cuts are made by very few words.